HI Tamara:

Thanks for reading Tamara. I could do a whole series of posts on what we don’t say. Oh boy! On the other hand, there probably is a good post there about the things that we always think, but never say. While some things are better left unsaid, I bet we all censor ourselves at work and in relationships at times when we should speak up! I find that even just speaking honestly about my feelings, even if no change comes of it, makes me feel better. Usually though, it leads to positive changes in my life. Thanks Tamara!

Hi Nicole:

It’s great to have your voice here again. Thank you for highlighting how exacting we can be with ourselves. It is so hard to let things go. I think we sometimes punish ourselves because we fear re-experiencing the stress, sadness, or embarrassment that accompanied our mistake; we think if we continue to make ourselves “pay” for it, that we cannot repeat our error.

I think there’s a way to hang onto lessons learned without continually beating myself up simply because I said or did something foolish or careless.

Thanks for the reminder about how important it is to forgive yourself if you want to love yourself.

This is such a great reminder that we count, too! Thanks for sharing it!